Book Review: “Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” Why Women Need Financial Intimacy

women need financial intimacyTitle: “Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” Why Women Need Financial Intimacy
Author: Helga Hayse
Publisher: Primelife Publishing, San Mateo, CA, USA
ISBN: 0-9778368-2-7
Price: $14.95, Date: 2006, Page Count: 195
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“Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” is a softcover book geared towards women contemplating marriage or those who are already married. The cover image is an appropriate illustration by Edward Sorel, courtesy of The New Yorker Magazine, that shows Pan reading The Wall Street Journal while his wife sits at his side completely oblivious.

It’s a fact that many married women allow their husbands to handle the family finances while they sit idly by and sign anything that their husband places in front of them. The consequences of this behavior is made clear by the author Helga Hayse. Hayse says in the book “Our willingness to let our husband handle the finances in the marriage impacts our own financial safety and our ability to cope in the event of widowhood or divorce.” No statement has been more true.

This fascinating and immensely helpful book is a wakeup call to women everywhere. After meeting a financially strapped widow the author began to wonder how she would cope if her husband died. She interviewed hundreds of people on the topic of marital finances and each story was more heartbreaking than the last.

Hayse had her wakeup call and began the slow process of learning everything she needed to know about her marital finances. She and her husband began financial planning and shortly after all the documents were signed her husband died in freak accident at home. Hayse takes her experience from both sides of the fence to empower women to take control of their finances.

I found this book to be empowering and filled with information that most women never consider. Topics covered include premarital and postmarital agreements, death of a spouse, divorce and even remarriage. In addition to the generous advice shared there are questionnaires, checklists, worksheets, recommended reading and additional resources.

The author even includes a separate chapter for “For Husbands Only” that gently guides men to realize that they can show their love for their wife by beginning and completing the process of financial planning.

“Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” Why Women Need Financial Intimacy should be required reading for young women in high school or college. No one wants to think about the possibility of divorce or the certainty of death but preparing women for either circumstance is critical and this book is an important tool for all women.

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Bonnie Jo Davis is a Virtual Assistant and freelance writer who has been published hundreds of times in print and on the internet. She recommends the book: “Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” Why Women Need Financial Intimacy for women everywhere. It is available at

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